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When Friendships Have Ran Their Course
“The end of a friendship can be a blessing in disguise, making room for new and more fulfilling connections. Don’t be sad that it’s over, be grateful that it happened.”
Over the past 20 years, I’ve cherished an incredible friendship with a friend from high school. Together, we’ve navigated marriage, parenthood, and the daunting task of rebuilding our lives after divorce. We’ve supported each other through surgeries and our children’s hospital stays, all while striving for work-life balance. However, recently, our connection has waned. Our phone calls have become infrequent, and we only meet during holiday gatherings, often finding ourselves at a loss for words.
I wondered if I hadn’t been giving my all in the relationship, so I decided to treat us to lunch. I figured that if anything could spark a conversation between us, it would be over a delectable serving of Chili Cheese Fries from Louis Burger, one of Los Angeles’ renowned burger joints. We opted for takeout, sat down, and started talking. The conversation revolved around the usual questions.
Me: How are you and the kids doing?
Her: We’re fine, you know…
The conversation was so lackluster that not even butter could smooth it over when I channeled my fierce Sasha persona and reiterated the question.